chronic-illnes

Readmitted

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Sorry for the late explanation. I needed some time to calm down, restart and get and travel home.

Very long complex story, but I was readmitted because i had not had a bowl movement since before surgery. They released me before that happened saying it would at home. It never did. We called and they said if it was painful to go in, which is was so we did. We thought it would be something they took care of in the ER and we would be out that night. They came back in and said because of all the stitching neurosurgery wanted me readmitted for observation.

So, I was readmitted a scans showed a Seroma (fluid collection at the surgery site) that the ER was concerned about. The surgeon later told me that it’s very common and they would be surprised not to have one. That the ER always makes a big deal out of it.

During my 23 hour stay, I was not fed or given any fluids through an IV or a cup of water. Whenever I hit the call light button it was ignored. The doctor came in for around 3 mins and said all my problems were because I have an addiction to pain meds. (The one I just started taking after brain surgery on Monday). The only thing this doctor did was cancel ALL my meds for 10 hours. I went without pain meds other than Tylenol. There were a few medications the nurses even told me that had no idea what those were for and I had to explain how during brain surgery they stopped my CSF flow and I lost of CSF fluid so they filled me back up with saline and it takes time for the to become CSF, so that medication they stopped was to prevent the headaches that go with that. I asked for my meds several times and was always told to just wait for them to ask the doctor. They also asked the doctor if I could have a small bowl of oatmeal and an IV for hydration. They finally came back and said they could see the doctor was reading their messages, but not responding. They said we could fire her and get a new doctor, so I formally said that’s what I wanted to do. Another couple hours and they come back to say, I can’t fire her because she is the only doctor working that floor right now. They also let it slip that the doctor had also gone to empathy training before.

It gets to be a whole mess of meds being ordered and then canceled “this” is gonna happen but nothing does. I am in so much physical pain, starving, dehydrated and I don’t feel safe. I could write a whole post on medical gaslighting. It’s real and dangerous. I felt scared and so I stood out of my hospital bed and started taking off all the monitors and got dressed. I told my mom I wasn’t safe and was leaving. That I would follow up with my primary care back home who I love. There was no clear reason why I was in the hospital. I had already met my goal and was declining from no food or water. The nurses kept wanting me to stay for the next shift because there would be a new doctor and I could be reevaluated. They convinced me to have a meal and to just wait for a few hours or a new doctor. I did. Only to find out right before it would be the same doctor. I think they wanted me to stay because once you hit midnight again the hospital can charge for another full day even if I’m only there for a few minutes after midnight.

The doctor finally started sending in meds, but smaller doses than I take (according to the plan created by my neurosurgery team). I told my mom I was done with this pettiness and just wanted to go home where I know my parents can take care of me. I was physically not in that much pain and suffering at home.

One of the nurses I love checked me out before midnight and we got the number to call about that doctor. When we go back in two months for the follow up appointment I might want to follow up with what happened in person cause that was wrong. It took days to get my pain manageable again. I also have other conditions like POTS and fibromyalgia that were caused to flare because of the lack of care I was receiving. I have to be on it with my health. With the foods I eat, hydration and medication. Not even mentioning brain surgery. I was denied all of that under this doctor’s “care”.

I’m sorry it’s taken a couple days to update about this. I’ve had nightmares about it and it’s still real upsetting me to think or talk about it.

Shae 💜

Hanging on by a Thread

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I can feel my strength getting weaker. My heart getting heavier. Every day is getting harder. I’m having to use a cane now to help with my balance and lightheadedness. There is so much breaking my heart from my illness and physical pain and the impact this illness has had on relationships. 

Life’s just hard. I’m trying to take it day by day, but that sometimes turns to hour by hour. The ground is feeling more unsteady with every step forward. 

Sometimes I feel so shaken and fragile as each day brings me closer to the brain surgery. I’m feeling so weary and tired. I wish all of this was already behind me. 

(Here’s an inside look into how my prayer goes sometimes)

I was praying earlier about my struggle and questioned why this was happening to me again. Why does it feel worse than before? I asked God to give me the strength I don’t have and to carry me now because I’m too tired. I told God I felt like I was only hanging on by a thread. That there’s no way out for me. 

I thought about that phrase “hanging by a thread” for a second and began to imagine a thread and the image in my head took on the old hem of a tattered robe.

The woman in the Bible who bled for 12 years and touched the robe of Jesus was my first thought. 

Honestly, that story has become a hard one for me to hear and read. There has been some unintentional misuse of that story towards me. I had someone I know compare me to the woman. They told me that if I just had more faith and decided to reach out and touch Jesus’ robe, I would be healed. 

These last few years, I have had many people tell me things like that. If I just had more faith, prayed more, or confessed my sin I would be healed. Someone even asked me what my parent’s unconfessed sin was. 

I slowly began to realize I felt like the woman who was isolated from her community and church. She was known for her illness. It’s been really hard and I struggle sometimes to be in church or with a group of believers. I feel insecure and tainted somehow. I feel like everyone knows my prayers haven’t been answered and I’m marked. I know this is irrational thinking, but the insecurity, feeling different from my peers, and not having a “normal” young adult life 

It is easy for me in the moment when these things are being said to brush it off, but with my insomnia and the fatigue at night, the lies begin to distort the truth. 

I lie awake and wonder why has God not answered my prayers. Did I do something wrong? Am I not enough as I am?

I read a book by Costi Hinn called, More Than a Healer. I loved how he described that way of thinking. This is my summary, but he describes that way of thinking as making God’s love transactional. That we have to do or say the right things for Him to bless and take care of us. 

The one thing above all I have learned from this experience is my faith is not built on anything other than the tender mercies and love of Jesus. We are not promised a life free of worries and pain, but we are promised the unconditional, never-ending love of God that surpasses all understanding. 

I find myself avoiding the story of the woman who touched the robe of Jesus because it would make me feel angry and confused about why healing hasn’t come for me. I don’t know and I may never know. Full healing may never come for me on this side of heaven, but I know it will come. I have a promise of a future with a new body and no more pain. A place with no more tears and heartbreak. 

When I was praying about having on by a thread and then thought of the woman and the robe, this time I thought of Jesus’ robe tattered and worn with threads hanging off the bottom.  He was described as a man of sorrow. He carried the sorrows of the world. My sorrows. 

I realized that yes, I am hanging on by a thread. The thread of the robe. The robe of the one who will lead me to life everlasting. 

The Book of Job is one of my favorite books of the Bible. One of my favorite passages of scripture is after all of Job’s questioning and debating, God answers him through a whirlwind. He asks Job a series of questions showing the full awesome power of God and the smallness of man. In God’s love, he restores Job’s life. Job ends by saying, 

“I have heard of You before, but now I have seen You with my own eyes.” 

Thank you for all your prayers and support,

God Bless, Shae

TOMOROW IS THE DAY!!

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The other GoFundMe had some problems, so my friends Amy Munoz and Heather Hartrim-Lowe have organized a new one. Tomorrow is the day i am having my second brain surgery! We barely made it out here to Denver, because of the weather, but we are here!

We appreciate all of your support, it’s taking a lot to be here and the expense of the surgery itself. They need me to stay out here for two weeks to make sure there are no complications. Then I will have a 10 day follow up appointment with them where they will remove my staples and do an evaluation to clear me for the flight home. I also need to come back to CO in two months for a follow up appointment.

I’m using a cane now because I have developed some mobility and balance issues. I’m losing the fine motor skills in my hands too and barely able to write with a pen. My ability to do math and keep track of time is gone right now, adding 2+5 is beyond me and time is confusing. There is short term memory loss also. The headaches are nonstop because of the fluid blockage in my brain. Hopefully, this surgery will heal and restore those things or at least stop the progression and will greatly improve my quality of life.

We would like to cover January 15, 2024 in prayer for Shae as she goes in for her 2nd brain surgery. Please join us in praying for Shae: every part of her procedure and recovery, the doctors and nurses, hospital staff, hospital, operating room, recovery room, and Shae’s family. Let us pray that in all things God’s will be done.

Shae had brain decompression surgery in March 2021 for a rare condition called Chiari Malformation (kee-AH-ree mal-for-MAY-shun) Type I. Since then, Shae has experienced complications, including a leak and scar tissue that is growing like a weed at the site of the previous surgery.

Last year Shae had over 135 medical appointments which does not include the ER and urgent care visits. There have also been dozens of trips to the pharmacy and calls to doctors and insurance, not to mention all of the scheduling. It’s overwhelming!

Shae is going to a specialist in Colorado who is familiar with this rare complication. Shae hasn’t been able to work or return to school and needs support for travel to Denver and upcoming medical bills.

Shae’s 2nd surgery is scheduled for January 15th, 2024. The goal of this surgery is to remove the scar tissue and replace the initial duraplasty (the outer covering of the brain). The hope is to stop the cerebral spinal fluid leak. In addition, exploratory surgery will look for additional complications. After surgery Shae will need to stay in Colorado for ten days. At her ten-day follow-up exam, the doctors will assess her recovery and remove the staples before releasing her for travel home. Shae will also need to go back to Colorado for a follow up in two months.

Please consider helping Shae and her family financially as they navigate this extraordinary medical journey.

https://www.gofundme.com/f/support-shaes-brain-surgery-and-recovery